The Same Pattern, Different Stage: Why Your Past Keeps Showing Up in Your Present

 

Have you ever found yourself facing a challenge and thinking:

"Why does this keep happening to me?"

Maybe it's fear of failure. Maybe it's people-pleasing. Maybe it's procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking, or feeling like you always have to prove yourself. The circumstances may change, but the feeling remains familiar.

A few weeks ago, during a Becoming workshop, women were guided through an exercise that invited them to meet four versions of themselves:

The child.

The adolescent.

The young adult.

The woman they are today.

What happened next was powerful.

As they reflected on each stage of their lives, many realized they had been carrying some of the same thoughts, fears, and beliefs for decades. It may have been a different stage and a different circumstances but the thing that was familiar was the same pattern.

The Child Who Learned the Belief

None of us entered the world believing we weren't enough. Unfortunately, those messages are learned. Some of us learned that our value came from achievement while others learned that keeping the peace was more important than speaking up. Many women learned that mistakes were dangerous while some others learned that their needs came last.

As children, we develop beliefs to help us make sense of our experiences. At the time, those beliefs often serve a purpose. They help us navigate our environment and find safety, acceptance, or approval. The problem is that many of those beliefs continue long after the circumstances that created them have changed.

The Adolescent Who Reinforced It

As we grow, we often begin collecting evidence to support the beliefs we've already formed. If a child believes she must be perfect to be accepted, she may become an adolescent who fears mistakes. A child who believes her voice doesn't matter, may become a teenager who avoids expressing her opinions. The pattern becomes stronger, not because it's true but because it's familiar. The problem is familiarity can feel like truth.

The Adult Who Built a Life Around It

Many successful women have built impressive lives around beliefs that no longer serve them. They become high achievers, caretakers, and problem solvers. This women is also known as the dependable one, the strong one or the woman everyone can count on.

From the outside, everything looks successful however, inside, there is often exhaustion. Not because they lack strength but because they have spent years carrying expectations that were never meant to define them.

One participant in our workshop described the overwhelming weight of all the responsibilities she carried each day. As she listed them, it became clear that much of her stress wasn't coming from external expectations but from expectations she had placed on herself. The realization was so profound that she laughed. Not because it was funny but because she suddenly saw what had been invisible for years.

Awareness Creates Choice

You cannot change a pattern you cannot see. Many women spend years trying to fix the symptoms such as procrastination, self-doubt, burnout and inconsistency. Too often the issue is deeper because the behavior is simply the fruit. The root is the belief beneath it. 

Once you become aware of the pattern, something remarkable happens: you gain the power to choose differently. Not perfectly. Not instantly. But intentionally.

The Woman You Are Becoming

The goal is not to criticize the woman you've been. She did what she needed to do with the knowledge, resources, and experiences she had at the time. The real goal is to honor her while making room for growth. Recognize that the beliefs that protected you in one season may also be limiting you in another. It is important to understand that becoming is not about becoming someone else, but about becoming more fully yourself. Becoming the woman you were created to be: beneath the expectations, performance, fear, and  survival mindsets.

Realizing that every breakthrough begins with a single moment of awareness. A moment when you finally recognize: "I've seen this pattern before." And once you see it, you no longer have to let it decide your future.

Reflection Question

What belief or pattern has followed you from one stage of life to the next? More importantly, is it helping you become the woman you want to be—or is it time to release it?

Ready for Your Next Step?

If this article resonated with you, perhaps it is time to stop reading about becoming and start intentionally creating the life you were designed to live.

Explore coaching, speaking events, and resources designed to help women move from survival to clarity, confidence, and purpose.

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The Woman You're Becoming Is Waiting on a Decision

Have you ever looked at your life and thought: "I should be happier than I am."

From the outside, everything may appear fine. You have the degree, the career, the responsibilities, and perhaps even the title you've worked years to earn. Yet something inside you whispers that there is more. Not more to do. More to become.

Recently, during a workshop with a group of professional women, we explored an exercise that invited them to meet four versions of themselves: the child, the adolescent, the young adult, and the woman they are today.

What happened next was powerful.

As each woman reflected on those stages of her life, she began to notice something surprising. The same fears, beliefs, and patterns that appeared in childhood had quietly followed her into adulthood. Different circumstances. Different responsibilities. The same internal conversations.

One woman realized that her fear of failure had influenced major decisions throughout her life. Another discovered that expectations she had placed on herself years ago were still driving her choices today.

The patterns had changed clothes, but they had never left.

The Weight We Were Never Meant to Carry

One participant described the heaviness she felt trying to manage everything in her life.

The responsibilities seemed endless: work, family, meal planning, household duties, personal growth, and future goals. As she listed everything she felt responsible for, I asked a simple question:

"Who said you had to do all of that at once?" She paused. Then she laughed.

Because in that moment, she realized something important. No one had given her those expectations. She had given them to herself. How many of us are carrying burdens that were never assigned to us?

How many of us are exhausted not because life is impossible, but because we are trying to be everything to everyone all at the same time?

Sometimes the heaviest weight we carry is the pressure we place on ourselves.

You Cannot Build a New Life with an Old Identity

Many women are trying to create a different future while operating from old beliefs. They want confidence but still seek approval. They want freedom but continue choosing obligation; fulfillment but keep living according to expectations that no longer fit who they are becoming.

Transformation is not simply changing your habits. It is changing the way you see yourself. The woman you are becoming requires different thoughts, different decisions, and different standards than the woman you have been. That doesn't mean rejecting your past. It means learning from it and honoring it. It is also refusing to let it define your future.

Becoming Is a Decision

Many people think transformation happens when circumstances change. But transformation begins long before that. It begins with a decision. That decision includes choosing to stop settling, shrinking, and carrying expectations that no longer belong to you. you have to decide to believe that your best years are not behind you. The woman you want to become is not waiting for the perfect moment. She is waiting for your permission.

An Invitation

If you've been feeling restless, stuck, or disconnected from the life you truly want, perhaps it isn't because you're broken. Perhaps you've simply outgrown the current version of yourself. The question isn't whether you are capable of becoming more, it's whether you are ready to say yes to the woman you were created to be. Because she is already there...waiting. Every decision you make today either moves you closer to her or further away.

Choose wisely. Choose intentionally. Choose becoming.

When You Don’t Recognize Yourself Anymore: The Shift No One Prepares You For

 You don’t recognize yourself anymore

Not because everything fell apart…

but because the life you built no longer fits.

From the outside, it still looks “good.”
Career. Responsibilities. Expectations you’ve mastered.

But internally?
You’re restless. Disconnected. Questioning everything.

You’ve spent years being who you needed to be—
the professional, the provider, the one others rely on.

And now there’s a quieter question rising:

Who am I beyond what I’ve built?

This isn’t a breakdown.

It’s the moment most women try to ignore—
because answering it will require change.

You’re in the space between who you’ve been
and who you’re meant to become.

And yes—it can feel uncertain.
Uncomfortable. Even lonely.

But this is also where clarity begins.

Not surface-level clarity.
The kind that shifts how you live, what you build,
and what you’re no longer willing to tolerate.

The women I work with don’t just “find themselves.”

They realign.
They redefine their identity on their own terms.
And they begin building lives and businesses that actually reflect who they are now.

So if you’ve been asking:

• What do I actually want now?
• What’s next for me beyond this version of success?
• Why does everything feel off even though I “should” be fine?

You’re not lost.

You’re at the point where staying the same is no longer an option.

And what you do next matters.

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If you’re ready to stop circling the question and start moving forward—let’s talk.

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Staying Stuck Is a Choice: The Quiet Self-Sabotage

 

Staying Stuck Is a Choice: The Quiet Self-Sabotage Keeping You From the Life You Desire

If you’ve been telling yourself, “I’m just waiting for the right time,” I need you to hear this with love:

You’re not waiting on time. You’re waiting on permission. And the longer you wait, the more “stuck” starts to feel like a personality trait instead of a season.

Let’s tell the truth about being stuck

Being stuck isn’t always loud.

Sometimes it looks like:

·       Overthinking every move until you’re exhausted

·       Starting… then stopping… then starting again

·       Watching other women win and calling it “inspiration,” but feeling envy in your chest

·       Staying in the same job, relationship, or routine because it’s familiar

·       Saying “I’m praying about it” while avoiding the uncomfortable action you already know you need to take

Here’s the reality: Staying stuck is a choice. Not because you’re lazy or you don’t want better. But because staying stuck often feels safer than becoming who you’re called to be.

Staying stuck is self-sabotage in a pretty outfit

Self-sabotage doesn’t always show up as “messing things up.” Sometimes it shows up as:

·       Playing small so nobody expects too much from you

·       Keeping your dreams private so you don’t have to risk disappointment

·       Waiting until you feel “ready” so you don’t have to feel vulnerable

Staying stuck is a form of self-sabotage because it protects you from the very thing you say you want:

·       Visibility

·       Growth

·       Change

·       Responsibility

·       Success

And yes—power.

Because when you move forward, you can’t blame the past anymore.

The “powerless” feeling is a lie you learned

A lot of high-achieving women are carrying a quiet belief that sounds like:

·       “I don’t have time.”

·       “I don’t have support.”

·       “I don’t know where to start.”

·       “I’ve tried before and it didn’t work.”

But beneath those words is often something deeper:

“What if I try again and I still fail?”
“What if I succeed and I can’t maintain it?”
“What if I become her… and people judge me?”

So you stay in the in-between. Not because you don’t have power— but because you’ve been trained to doubt it.

You have more power than you’re using

Let me remind you who you are. You are a woman who has:

·       Survived seasons that should’ve broken you

·       Held everybody else together while you were falling apart

·       Figured it out before… without a blueprint

So don’t tell me you “can’t.” You can, but you may need support to stop negotiating with the version of you that’s afraid.

The cost of staying stuck is higher than you think

Staying stuck doesn’t just delay your dream.

It steals:

·       Your confidence (because you keep breaking promises to yourself)

·       Your clarity (because you keep spinning in circles)

·       Your peace (because your spirit knows you’re meant for more)

·       Your future (because time keeps moving even when you don’t)

And the worst part? is you start to normalize dissatisfaction. You start calling it “being realistic,”

but deep down you know: You didn’t come this far to live a life that feels like a compromise.

The shift that changes everything: clarity + decision

You don’t need more motivation.

You need:

·       Clarity about what you truly want

·       Honesty about what’s been keeping you stuck

·       A decision to stop self-sabotaging

·       A simple plan that matches your real life

Because once you see the pattern clearly, you can’t unsee it and once you decide, you stop drifting.

If this hit you, don’t scroll past your own life

If you felt "some kind of way" reading this, that’s not shame. That’s your inner wisdom tapping you on the shoulder saying: “It’s time.” The good news is you don’t have to figure it out alone.

Request an Alignment Call

This is for the woman who’s tired of being stuck in her head and ready to get honest about what she wants next.

On this call, we’ll:

·       Identify what’s really keeping you stuck

·       Get clear on what you desire (without shrinking it)

·       Map your next best step so you can move with confidence

If you’re ready to stop acting powerless and start moving like the woman you truly are, request an alignment call here:     Request an Alignment Call

Your life won’t change because you read this. It changes when you decide you’re finished living beneath your potential.

 

When Your Life Looks Right… But Doesn’t Feel Right

There’s a moment most women don’t talk about.

It doesn’t come with a breakdown.
It doesn’t come with a dramatic ending.

It shows up quietly.

You wake up one morning, and everything in your life still works…
but something inside you doesn’t.

Your career is stable.
You’ve built something meaningful.
On paper, it looks like you’ve done everything right.

But internally?

Something feels off.

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The Feeling You Can’t Quite Explain

It’s not burnout.
It’s not failure.
And it’s not a lack of motivation.

It’s something deeper.

It’s the realization that the life you built…
no longer fully fits the woman you’ve become.

And that’s a hard place to sit in.

Because now you’re holding two truths at once:

👉 You’re grateful for what you have
👉 But you know there’s more for you

That tension creates a quiet restlessness.

And most women try to solve it the wrong way.

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Why You Keep Starting Over

When something feels off, the natural instinct is to do more.

Start something new.
Set new goals.
Create a new plan.

But if you’ve ever found yourself starting…
and then stopping…

Or starting again…
and never quite finishing…

There’s a reason. It’s not because you lack discipline or because you’re inconsistent.

👉 It’s because you’re trying to build from a place that isn’t aligned.

And no amount of action fixes misalignment.

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The Truth About Alignment

Alignment isn’t about doing more. It’s about doing what actually fits who you are now.

Not who you had to be to survive.
Not who you became to meet expectations.
Not who you learned to be to succeed.

But who you are… right now. The challenge is:

Most women don’t have language for where they are. They just feel it.

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Why Awareness Alone Isn’t Enough

Here’s where many get stuck.

They recognize something is off.
They even begin to understand why.

But they stop there. Awareness feels like progress…but it doesn’t create change on its own.

You can understand your patterns and still stay in the same cycle.

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What You Actually Need

You don’t need another motivational message or another general plan.

You need clarity. Clear insight into:

• Where you are right now
• What’s actually out of alignment
• What needs to shift next

Because once you can see it clearly…you can move differently.

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This Is Where Your Becoming Begins

That quiet feeling you’ve been carrying? It’s not confusion. It’s awareness.

And it’s asking you to do something with it.

Not someday. Not when everything makes perfect sense.

Now.

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✨ Start Here

If this resonated with you, don’t leave it at reflection.

I created something to help you see exactly where you are
and what your next step should be.

👉 Take The Becoming Assessment (Free)

This will give you:
✔ Your personal alignment profile
✔ Insight into what’s keeping you stuck
✔ Clear next steps based on where you are

Because you don’t need to start over again.

You just need to move forward… aligned.

The Sacred Pause: Why Pausing Isn’t Weakness—It’s Wisdom

In a world that glorifies “grinding harder” and celebrates the hustle, choosing to hit reset can feel almost rebellious. We’re taught that relentless motion equals progress, and that slowing down is a sign of weakness or lost ambition. But from a transformational perspective, the reset is sacred. It’s the conscious pause that creates space for healing, clarity, and true alignment—before your next bold move.

As a transformational coach, I remind my clients (and myself!) that resetting is not about starting over. It’s about starting again, but this time with wisdom. The version of you that takes a sacred pause has witnessed, learned, and released things that will make the next chapter stronger, richer, and more authentic.

Here’s the truth:

The pause is not a setback. It’s a power move. It’s where you reconnect with your purpose, listen to your inner wisdom, and gather the strength to move forward—intentionally and unapologetically.

Coaching Reflection Prompt

Where in your life are you pushing through on autopilot, instead of pausing to realign with your values and vision? What might transform if you gave yourself permission to pause—without guilt, without apology?

Action Step

This week, schedule a “stillness appointment” with yourself. Block out one hour for silence, reflection, or gentle journaling. Let this be a sacred space for your soul to breathe, your mind to settle, and your heart to speak.

Remember:

Resetting isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom in motion. Give yourself permission to pause, and watch how powerfully you rise.

Ready to make your reset intentional?

Check out my “The Becoming” Planner—designed to help you carve out space for stillness, set meaningful intentions, and track your growth.

Get your planner here!

Finish Strong: How to Reclaim Your Momentum Before 2026

 You started this year with such intention. Maybe you had a vision board, a list of goals, or just a quiet promise to yourself that this would be your year. But here we are in November, and if you're like most professional women I work with, you're exhausted, behind on your goals, and wondering where all that January energy went.

Sister, I see you. And I want you to know something important: It's not too late to finish strong.

The End-of-Year Slump Is Real

There's a reason why so many of us feel like we're dragging ourselves through the final weeks of the year. Between work demands, family obligations, holiday preparations, and the weight of unmet expectations, it's easy to lose momentum. You might be thinking:

• "I didn't accomplish what I set out to do this year."

• "I'm too tired to push through to the end."

• "Why bother? I'll just start fresh in January."

But here's the truth: How you finish matters just as much as how you start.

The way you close out 2025 sets the tone for how you'll step into 2026. If you coast through these final weeks on autopilot, you'll carry that same energy into the new year. But if you choose to reclaim your momentum now, you'll enter 2026 with clarity, confidence, and unstoppable momentum.

Why Finishing Strong Matters

When you finish strong, you:

• Build confidence in your ability to follow through

• Create momentum that carries into the new year

• Honor yourself and the commitments you made

• Set a powerful example for those watching you

• Prove to yourself that you're capable of more than you think

This isn't about perfection. It's not about checking off every single goal or working yourself into the ground. It's about being intentional with the time you have left and making choices that align with who you're becoming.

The 4R Framework for Finishing Strong

Over my 40 years in healthcare and more than a decade as a transformational coach, I've developed a framework that helps women move from surviving to thriving. It's called the 4R Process: Recognize, Release, Renew, and Relaunch. And it's exactly what you need to finish 2025 strong.

1. RECOGNIZE: Get Clear on Where You Are

Before you can move forward, you need to get honest about where you are right now. Not where you wish you were. Not where you think you "should" be. Where you actually are.

Ask yourself:

• What did I accomplish this year that I'm proud of?

• Where did I fall short, and why?

• What patterns or habits kept me stuck?

• What external circumstances impacted my progress?

This isn't about judgment or shame. It's about clarity. You can't change what you won't acknowledge.

Action Step: Set aside 30 minutes this week to journal on these questions. Be honest. Be compassionate. Be real.

2. RELEASE: Let Go of What's Holding You Back

Here's where most women get stuck. We hold onto guilt about what we didn't do. We carry shame about where we fell short. We replay the mistakes and missed opportunities over and over in our minds.

But you can't move forward while carrying all that weight.

It's time to release:

• The guilt about unmet goals

• The shame about where you "should" be

• The perfectionism that keeps you paralyzed

• The need to have it all figured out

• The comparison to other women's journeys

Action Step: Write down everything you're ready to release on a piece of paper. Then, in a symbolic act of letting go, tear it up, burn it safely, or bury it. This physical act helps your subconscious mind release what your conscious mind has been holding onto.

3. RENEW: Reconnect with Your Why

When you're exhausted and depleted, it's easy to forget why you started in the first place. But your "why" is your fuel. It's what will carry you through these final weeks and into 2026 with purpose.

Reconnect with:

• The dream that lit you up at the beginning of the year

• The woman you're becoming

• The legacy you want to leave

• The people who are counting on you

• The life you know you're meant to live

This is about more than goals. It's about identity. It's about remembering who you are beneath all the roles, responsibilities, and expectations.

Action Step: Create a vision statement for the woman you're becoming. Not what you want to do, but who you want to be. Read it every morning for the rest of the year.

4. RELAUNCH: Take Strategic Action

Now that you've recognized where you are, released what's holding you back, and renewed your vision, it's time to take action. But not just any action—strategic action.

You don't have to do everything. You just have to do the right things.

Ask yourself:

• What are the 1-3 goals that matter most right now?

• What actions will create the biggest impact?

• What can I realistically accomplish before the year ends?

• What support or resources do I need?

Action Step: Choose ONE goal to focus on for the remainder of 2025. Break it down into weekly action steps. Schedule them in your calendar like appointments you can't miss. Then, commit to showing up for yourself.

Your Momentum Starts Now

Here's what I know to be true: You are capable of so much more than you're currently experiencing. The dreams inside you aren't there by accident. The vision you have for your life isn't just wishful thinking. It's a blueprint for who you're meant to become.

But dreams don't manifest through hope alone. They require action. They require commitment. They require you to finish what you start.

You have eight weeks left in 2025. Eight weeks to reclaim your momentum. Eight weeks to prove to yourself that you can finish strong. Eight weeks to set yourself up for an extraordinary 2026.

What Will You Choose?

You have two choices right now:

Choice 1: Coast through the rest of the year on autopilot, telling yourself you'll start fresh in January (knowing deep down that the same patterns will repeat).

Choice 2: Decide right now that you're going to finish strong. That you're going to use the 4R Framework to reclaim your momentum. That you're going to enter 2026 as a woman who follows through.

The choice is yours. But I'm here to tell you: You don't have to do this alone.

Ready to Finish Strong?

If you're ready to reclaim your momentum and finish 2025 with clarity, confidence, and purpose, I'd love to support you. Here's how we can work together:

💜 Book a Complimentary Strategy Call. Let's talk about where you are, where you want to be, and how to bridge that gap. In 30 minutes, we'll create a clear roadmap for finishing 2025 strong and launching into 2026 with momentum. Schedule your call

🎯 Join the Vision Mastery Circle. Get monthly 1-on-1 coaching, bi-weekly group support, and the accountability you need to stay on track. This is for women who are done playing small and ready to activate their vision. Join the circle

Your Next Chapter Is Waiting

You didn't come this far to only come this far. The woman you're becoming is waiting on the other side of your commitment to finish strong.

So, what will it be? Will you let the rest of 2025 slip away, or will you reclaim your momentum and step into 2026 as the powerful, purposeful woman you're meant to be?

The choice is yours. But remember: How you finish matters.

Let's finish strong together.

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Adrienne Hollimon is a Transformational Discovery Coach with 40 years of healthcare experience and a Master's degree in Mental Health Counseling. Through her practice, Discovering Treasures, she helps professional women transform their hidden dreams into reality by bridging subconscious wisdom with conscious action. Connect with Adrienne on Instagram @dtdreamcoach or visit discoveringtreasureslifecoach.com.

Your Detour Is Your Destiny: How Life's Disruptions Lead to Purpose

 

The Morning That Changed Everything 

It was one of those mornings that tests everything about who you are and what you value. I was the administrator of a bustling medical clinic, chasing structure and stability, but losing myself in the process. As a single mom of two, each morning had its challenges and then one day the rain forced me to face a deeper truth.

That morning, watching my sixth-grade son standing at the bus stop in a downpour, broke my heart. I cried all the way to work, realizing I had I'd chosen my job over my son, and I'd never be able to get that day back. That rainy morning forced my reset.

When Life Demands Realignment 

Within weeks, I walked away from that job. Fear met me first—but peace followed not far behind. I didn't know what was next, but I knew what couldn't continue: neglecting my values in the name of survival.

Eight years passed before I returned to full-time work. In those years, I learned that my priorities matter—and being bold enough to put myself first wasn't selfish; it was the source of strength I needed to show up for others. Detours are uncomfortable, but they often deliver the directions our faith was too afraid to follow.

Discovering Purpose Through Pivot 

My next chapter arrived disguised as uncertainty—overseeing a girls' group home. It wasn't part of any career plan, but it became one of the most divinely aligned experiences of my life. Through my work there, I was exposed to the world of mental health counseling and realized: transformation wasn't just possible—it was my calling to guide others through it.

That moment birthed the journey into coaching, ministry, and women's empowerment work that fuels my mission today. My detour revealed my destiny.

What Every Reset Teaches 

The truth about transformation is this: your destiny rarely unfolds from comfort. It's revealed in disruption. When life forces a pivot, it's not punishment—it's preparation.

The clinic taught me structure. The group home taught me compassion. The rain taught me that what you're willing to sacrifice reveals what you actually value. Every stage was building the woman capable of leading others through their own reset.

Your Invitation to Reflect Ask yourself:

• What detour might be asking for your attention instead of your resistance?
• Where have you grown stronger because things didn’t go as planned?
• How might this season be your setup for purpose?

Your destiny is not behind you—it’s waiting for your obedience to the next step.

Join Me for the Transition Reset Workshop 

If you’re standing in a moment that feels uncertain, ready to heal, pivot, and begin again with intention, join me for the Transition Reset Workshop.   

This workshop is designed for women like you—women ready to stop surviving and start thriving. Together, we'll explore your detours, uncover your purpose, and create an action plan for your reset.   

Learn More & Register

Sometimes destiny is disguised as delay, and your detour is just a divine direction change.

With Purpose

Adrienne

Authenticity is the quality of being genuine or true to oneself. It is about being honest with yourself and others about who you are, what you believe in, and what you want. When you are authentic, you are not trying to be someone you are not. You are not afraid to be vulnerable or to show your true colors.

There are many benefits to being authentic. First, it allows you to build stronger relationships with others. When people can see that you are being genuine, they are more likely to trust you and to open up to you. Second, authenticity can lead to greater happiness and fulfillment. When you are living your life in accordance with your values and beliefs, you are more likely to feel a sense of purpose and satisfaction. Third, authenticity can help you to achieve your goals. When you are true to yourself, you are more likely to make decisions that are in line with your desires and values, which can lead you to success.

Of course, being authentic is not always easy. It can be scary to be vulnerable and to let others see your true self. However, the rewards of authenticity are worth the risk. When you are true to yourself, you are living a life that is more fulfilling and meaningful.

Here are some tips for being more authentic:

• Be honest with yourself about who you are and what you want. What are your values? What are your dreams? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Once you have a clear understanding of yourself, you can start to live your life in a way that is true to your values. 
• Be willing to be vulnerable. This means being open and honest with others about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. It can be scary to let others see your true self, but it is essential for building authentic relationships.
• Be consistent with your actions. What you say and do should be aligned with your values. If you say that you value honesty, but you are constantly lying, then people will not trust you.
• Be forgiving of yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. When you make a mistake, don't beat yourself up about it. Learn from your mistake and move on.

·       Being authentic is a journey, not a destination. It takes time and effort to be truly authentic. However, the rewards are worth it. When you are living your life in accordance with your values, you are more likely to be happy, fulfilled, and successful. If you are looking to live a more fulfilling and meaningful life, then I encourage you to embrace your authenticity.

Identifying Emotional Triggers: the First Step in Managing Them

 

Emotions are reactions that are experienced following an action or an event. They play a significant role in our daily lives, and we often react to them based on the feelings associated with the event. While some emotions can lead to positive feelings and outcomes, there are others that can be overwhelming and trigger negative emotions and behaviors.  These are known as emotional triggers.                                

Identifying emotional triggers is important because it helps us to better understand our own feelings and reactions in different situations, allowing us to take control of our emotions. By recognizing what triggers our emotions, we can learn how to manage them more effectively, leading to improved mental health and overall wellbeing.

Here are 5 tips for identifying emotional triggers:

1. Keep a journal: Write down your emotions and what happened before you felt them. Look for patterns and repeated events that lead to emotional responses.
2. Self-reflection: Take time to reflect on your emotions and identify what causes them. Ask yourself why you reacted in a certain way, and try to uncover the underlying cause.
3. Seek feedback: Ask a trusted friend or family member to give you feedback on what they observe as your emotional triggers. Sometimes others can see patterns that we may miss.
4. Be aware of physical reactions: Emotional triggers can often manifest in physical reactions such as sweating, racing heart, or shaking. Pay attention to these physical cues and try to identify what triggered them.
5. Identify past traumas: Past traumatic experiences can often be emotional triggers. If you have experienced trauma in the past, it may be helpful to seek professional help to process and work through those experiences.

By understanding the emotional triggers that affect us, we can start to identify patterns in our behavior and reactions that might be hindering our progress or causing distress. This level of self awareness can then be used to help us make better decisions and find healthier coping strategies when faced with difficult situations or challenging emotions.

Take my free assessment to help you identify your emotional triggers so that you will be better able to manage responses and make better decisions. 

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Manifesting your Dreams

 Manifesting your dreams is an exciting and rewarding process! 

Here are some tips to help you get started:

1. Get clear on your dream. Spend some time reflecting on what it is that you truly desire. Write it down, so that you can refer to it often.
2. Believe in yourself and your dreams. Know that you are capable of achieving whatever it is that you set your mind to and have faith in the universe.
3. Take small steps. Break your dreams down into smaller, achievable goals. Each small step will move you closer to your overall goal.
4. Visualize your dreams. Spend time every day visualizing what your life will be like when you achieve your dreams.
5. Stay positive and eliminate negative thoughts. Your thoughts become your reality, so it's important to stay positive and focus on the good.
6. Take action and be persistent. Take consistent action and never give up, even when the going gets tough.
7. Celebrate your progress and successes. Acknowledge the progress you make, no matter how small, and celebrate your successes along the way. This will help keep you motivated and on track.

     Embrace every moment as you manifest your dreams!

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Limiting Beliefs are Sabotaging Your Success

Have you been wondering why you can’t seem to make the progress you desire? It seems you take one step forward and two steps backwards. You know what to do, but just can’t seem to do it. The problem is that there is a war going on within your mind. You know what you want to do but you have negative self-limiting beliefs that are fighting your positive desires. This battle is like attempting to fill a pot with a hole in it. It doesn’t matter how much water you have, or how often you try to fill it, the pot will leak and not maintain the level of water that matches the effort you’ve exhausted.

What you believe about yourself, life, and the world impact you more than you realize. How many times have you been told that negative thoughts become self-fulfilling prophecies? It is true. For example, if you believe you will never lose weight, it becomes almost impossible to change eating habits or lifestyle because the new actions are in direct opposition to what you believe.

There are many self-limiting beliefs. Here are a few of the most common:

§  Others are responsible for your current life circumstances. For example, you may have said “They, won’t let me do…” or “if they hadn’t…, I wouldn’t be...”

§  Past failures will be an indicator of future failures

§  There is not enough time to do what you desire

§  You are too old to start anything new

§  There are not enough resources, or you don’t have enough

§  You don’t deserve success

§  You are not worthy to be loved

Overcoming self-limiting beliefs requires you to counter the negative with new and positive belief statements.  

Here are a few other recommendations:

§  Become more self-aware. Ask yourself, “Is what I’m thinking really true?”  If it is not or is based on a self-limiting belief, then it must go

§  Believe in yourself

§  Tell yourself that you are capable of learning new things and improving current skillsets

§  Remind yourself, that there is no shortage of money and that your issue is ideas not resources

§  Believe you are worthy of success

§  Remember that a past failure will not stop you from being successful in the future

The best news is you have the power to change any self-limiting beliefs and consequently change your mind!

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Living an Intentional Life

 Most women have dreams and goals for their lives. The problem is generally, there is not a method to ensure sustained growth and predictable outcomes for producing it. Intentional living means there are deliberate decisions and actions that are taken to produce desired results. It requires making decisions and creating actions to support those decisions.

 Too often people have an idea of what they want their lives to look like but fail to deliberately take actions to achieve what they want. They see the end of the thing and fail to construct the foundation and building blocks to produce what they see. 

However, wishing and hoping will never yield the results of hard work, deliberate action, and determination.

 Strategies for intentional living:

 1.    Understand your purpose and reason for living. It has been said that the two most important days of an individual’s life is the day they were born and the day they discover why they were born. It is imperative that to live intentionally, you must understand your purpose so that all of your decisions and actions align with who you are and what you were created to do.

2.    Write the vision. It’s not enough to have a dream or an idea of where you are going. There is a saying for healthcare professionals, “If it is not documented, it did not happen.” The same is true for many of your dreams and plans. If you do not go through the practice of writing it down, so that you can go back and read it, it will fade and not come to fruition. 

3.    Establish a daily routine. If you were to look at the lives of the most successful people, you will find that they have a daily routine or practice. Whether it is meditation, prayer, affirmations, reading the newspaper, or breathing exercises, the days begins with a set of repeated practices. The practices are as varied as the individual, but the outcome is the same, consistency and productivity.

 4.    Develop healthy and positive mindsets. An intentional life requires mindsets that support growth and productivity. A person with a growth mindset sees possibilities and is not intimidated by personal weaknesses and obstacles. When confronted with something new or unfamiliar, they are not afraid to accept a challenge because they believe it is possible to learn what is necessary to create the change they desire.

5.    Set goals for the key areas of your life. Goals are critical for staying focused and maintaining momentum. These can include personal growth, health, financial, relationship, and career goals. Any aspirations or areas that you want to see happen or make changes in the current direction must have a goal attached.

 6.    Avoid procrastination and distractions. Be intentional with your time because it is the one thing you can never get back. Always be mindful of what you want to accomplish and make every effort to get it done. You can schedule times for activities such as reading emails, taking calls, and surfing the internet or social media.  

 7.    Practice self-care. Your body is your greatest tool and is required for you to do all the great things that you see. Self-care includes physical and emotional health. Always be mindful of what you put in it including food and drugs. Moderation is key. Exercise is key to self-care because it is beneficial for both physical and emotional wellbeing.

 8.    Review your day and plan for tomorrow. Take a few minutes each day to review your progress on your goals. What did you do well, what areas need tweaking or revision? Include key take aways you learned that can be applied to future activities or situations. Write your goals for the next day, so that you will start each new day with intention.   

Intentional living is about choosing the type of person you want to be and creating the life that you desire. This will not happen by accident but will be the direct result of the choices you make and the actions you take. Be intention and create the life of your dreams.

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